4rtem499 So I (f27) was making dinner for my boyfriend (m29) last night. It wasn’t anything fancy, just pasta with homemade sauce, salad, garlic bread. Halfway through the meal he says, “This is good, but you’ll never be wife material until you can cook like my mom.” I literally froze. I asked what that meant, and he doubled down saying, “Well, she cooks everything from scratch, three courses, homemade dessert, it’s just… different.” I told him it was rude to compare me to his mom and that if he wanted her food, he should go eat at her place. Now he’s mad, saying I “overreacted” and that he was just being “honest about standards.” I genuinely feel disrespected. Am I overreacting for thinking that was completely inappropriate to say to someone you supposedly love?

whatthewhat3214 Start calling him Oepidus and tell him he should go back to living with his mom bc he's not ready for an adult relationship, which is supposed to be a partnership.

And tell him HE'S welcome to cook everything from scratch if he wants. Tell him he's incredibly sexist to think that's your job, there's nothing stopping him from cooking like this if that's the kind of food he wants.

And then after you pack your things to leave him, on the way out the door tell him to remember the year is 2025, and women have better things to do than wait on a man like it's the 19th century. That microwaves and meal shortcuts and other modern conveniences were invented so women didn't have to spend a majority of their days slaving over a hot stove and keeping up a house (I'm guessing he expects you to do that too) and doing all the childcare like indentured domestic servants. Tell him to grow up and stop acting like a boy who needs and expects his partner to act like his mom and take care of him. What exactly does he do to take care of you, right?

RealisticShape8751 So for reference I (f24) made my husband (m25) Dino nuggets and tater tots for dinner. We haven’t gone grocery shopping yet and we’re hitting the end of our food right now so he wanted a quick dinner.

He was visibly upset when I told him what I was making. He said it’s bad food and why can’t I make him something that’s actually good. I thought to myself ‘okay that’s understandable I guess let me have him pick something better’.

Tell me why this man pulls out pizza rolls and waffle fries.

He claims that is a ‘real meal’ over the Dino nuggets and tater tots. In my brain these two meals are basically the same. Both quick kid foods. I told him he’s rude as fuck for shitting on the dinner I made him then proceeding to have me make a very similar dinner.

This argument was not a very serious one but he did make me slightly angry by having me make a new dinner. On top of all of that he asked for dinner as soon as I put our son down to bed instead of asking when I was making our son dinner so I was already tired. I ate with our son which was Mac and cheese with hot dogs cut up (again quick easy dinner with what we had left). That wasn’t good enough for my husband either.

Also who doesn’t like Dino nuggets? Crazy people. He also claimed the Dino’s were burnt and they indeed are not.

I want to add that I usually make pretty good big dinners but we’re lacking on meat right now and we got home late from running errands so no time to shop and cook before bedtime.

Quote:why do y'all keep dating, marrying, and having kids with these guys...

Quote:This, gotta know how men like this get women. Clearly it isn't for the money..

Quote:They pick women with no self esteem, butter them up then gradually treat her like shit more & more til that’s just what she thinks she’s worth.