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RE: Why ‘walkaway wives’ are leading the charge in midlife divorce - LeftFem - Nov 30 2025
Threads like this make me glad I have zero attraction to men.
Generally though, I went on that subreddit linked and seeing stuff like, "If middle-aged men suddenly suffered a condition that caused a lack of intimacy, sex, and connection with their wives, most women would simply leave. They certainly would not be told to "deal with it."" is actually disgusting. Anecdote, my mother stayed with my dying father for three years when he was on dialysis, barely able to walk, and needed assistance.
My sister's mother in law is with her husband that has Parkinson's to the point where he can barely do anything on his own.
If the situations were reversed, how many men wouldn't find a new girlfriend/wife within weeks? Just selfishness all the way through from men
RE: Why ‘walkaway wives’ are leading the charge in midlife divorce - Clover - Nov 30 2025
(Nov 30 2025, 2:07 AM)LeftFem Generally though, I went on that subreddit linked and seeing stuff like, "If middle-aged men suddenly suffered a condition that caused a lack of intimacy, sex, and connection with their wives, most women would simply leave. They certainly would not be told to "deal with it."" is actually disgusting.
I was gonna say, what fucking bullshit. Literally a bunch of loser men in online echo chambers (manosphere). For starters, the vast majority of [middle-aged] men actually do have a condition that causes "a lack of intimacy, sex, and connection with their wives," it's called... being a man in a patriarchal society. (I shall dub it... Moiditis.) I wish women would free themselves enough that that sentence would be true. Because women aren't even doing it right now. Most men don't give a shit about being intimate or having a connection with their wives. And the "sex" they offer to their female partners is nothing more than being used as a living fleshlight; it does not deserve to be called "sex." So many women quietly put up with unfilling relationships with men, because they don't think/feel/see a better future is possible without being tied to a human being who views them as nothing more than a tool.
And like you point out, women are way more likely to stay with a chronically/terminally ill male partner than vice versa. It's literally like the same shit they pull with "hurr durr women are bad drivers" but car insurance rates and traffic fatalities statistics paint quite a different story!
RE: Why ‘walkaway wives’ are leading the charge in midlife divorce - ptittle - Dec 3 2025
(Nov 24 2025, 8:44 PM)Clover(Nov 24 2025, 9:22 AM)MagpieQuote:husbands are left in shock after an ‘out-of-the-blue’ divorceQuote:And more than ever, this is coming out of the blue for their comfortable husbands who had assumed everything was just ticking along nicely.
Something tells me it would feel less as if the divorce came out of nowhere if any of these men could be bothered to pay attention to how their wife is feeling. You have known this woman for years on end, presumably lived together and still couldn't pick up a single clue that she was deeply unhappy? No wonder she is leaving you.
Relevant 2XC comment thread for that: https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1p4prlu/why_walkaway_wives_are_leading_the_charge_in/nqe9d8s/
Nwwoodsymom We saw a therapist towards the end when things were really bad and she asked us to rate our marriage. I was sobbing on the couch, and I said 2. He said nine. NINE. It was then I realized that nothing was ever going to change because as bad as things were he was getting his needs met and didn’t see a reason to change.
It will be 4 years this Jan that we separated and I’m so thankful. Financially it was devastating, I was a SAHM to 3 kids. But we are thriving.
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I heard from several people that he says “I just suddenly left”, and has no idea why. Our divorce took two years and the last day before papers were signed he gave some half effort email saying “Fine, I will take pills or whatever you want.” He wasn’t able to get it up our entire marriage and his response was always that he just needed to lose some weight. 8 years of no sex and that’s not even why we divorced. It was the lies and living like roommates.
And they say women are deluded. The fact that he rated the marriage as 9 was surely one more reason to leave.